Did You Know That Shame Is Not An Emotion?

Shame is not an emotion, Shame, Emotional Health, Human Emotional System

Shame is not exactly a feeling. Shame is an experience human beings have—like depression or anxiety. It is also often a numbing agent. This is not a conscious process.  You don’t think to yourself: “Oh, I will just feel ashamed in order to numb myself.”  If you’ve experienced shame, which you probably have, you know…

This is the Noble Intention of Your Fear

Fear, Managing Fear, Human Emotional System, Emotional Intensity, Emotional Intelligence, Helpful Fear

Today’s post is about FEAR. This post is #3 in a series of 10: Ten Basic Emotions and their Messages. The central point is:  The human emotional system is built as a messaging system. Each emotion has a general message it wants to convey.  Once that message is delivered, the emotion or the wave of…

Why Your Sadness is All Good

Sadness, Tears, Dealing with Feelings, Manhattan Beach Counseling

I know, being sad is a bummer. Most people don’t want to sign up for experiencing sadness.  It’s not exactly pleasant. However, sadness is actually an important part of the human experience. Just like it is important that our cells die off and replace themselves.  If they did not, we would not grow taller and…

This is How You “Become an Adult”

Adulting

Becoming an adult. Emotional maturity. The freedoms are kind of awesome.  But the responsibilities are the ones that make all the “no adulting” memes so popular. How do you know when you turn that corner into becoming an adult on an emotional level? We all know people who we think “should be an adult by…