This is How You “Become an Adult”

Adulting

Becoming an adult. Emotional maturity. The freedoms are kind of awesome.  But the responsibilities are the ones that make all the “no adulting” memes so popular. How do you know when you turn that corner into becoming an adult on an emotional level? We all know people who we think “should be an adult by…

What Outdated Programs Are You Running?

One Heart Counseling Center, Emotional Health, Counseling, Therapy, Manhattan Beach, Hermosa Beach

Early on, human beings develop programs for dealing with things in life. You don’t realize what programs are running until they are exposed, which usually means they are causing problems. When you develop these programs, there is not a lot of conscious discernment going on. You don’t say, “hey, that seems like a good idea”…

When the Intensity of Emotion is Not Helping You

In spin class, there is a teacher that always says in the beginning:  “I coach on levels of intensity: easy, moderate, hard, breathless”. The intensity for unpleasant feelings is similar: easy, moderate, hard, breathless. While there is the range of all human emotion that we need to practice tolerating, there is also the intensity of…

Which Feelings are OK?

I ask my child clients this question all the time: Which feelings are OK? And, pretty much every time, they tell me “happy”.  And maybe they will look at their parent if the parent is in the room. But, let’s be real, as adults, we kinda feel the same way. Maybe we intellectually understand that…