When the Intensity of Emotion is Not Helping You

In spin class, there is a teacher that always says in the beginning:  “I coach on levels of intensity: easy, moderate, hard, breathless”. The intensity for unpleasant feelings is similar: easy, moderate, hard, breathless. While there is the range of all human emotion that we need to practice tolerating, there is also the intensity of…

Which Feelings are OK?

I ask my child clients this question all the time: Which feelings are OK? And, pretty much every time, they tell me “happy”.  And maybe they will look at their parent if the parent is in the room. But, let’s be real, as adults, we kinda feel the same way. Maybe we intellectually understand that…